DoYouLiveWithAPsychopath

Dr. Robert Hare, author of "Without Conscience": writes:

"Psychopaths are not disoriented or out of touch with reality, nor do they experience the delusions, hallucinations, or intense subjective distress that characterize most other mental disorders. Unlike psychotic individuals, psychopaths are rational and aware of what they are doing and why. Their behavior is the result of choice, freely exercised."

Because of their inability to appreciate the feelings of others, some psychopaths are capable of behavior that normal people find not only horrific but baffling," Hare writes. "For example, they can torture and mutilate their victims with about the same sense of concern that we feel when we carve a turkey for Thanksgiving dinner."

Psychopaths have several names. The psychologists call them "anti-social", or "sociopath's" but they all mean the same thing. These are individuals who are extremely dangerous to everyone that they meet. And it is because they can appear completely "normal." They are often charming, good-looking, very intelligent, charismatic, manipulative, cunning, pathological liars, and cold-blooded, all at the same time.

They have a pervasive pattern of disregard for and violation of the rights of others. They can do this without breaking the law, but very often they do break the law. They demonstrate deceitfulness, as indicated by repeated lying, use of aliases, or the conning of others for personal profit or pleasure. They are often impulsive, and fail to plan ahead. They will get irritated very easily, and become aggressive, and can get in repeated physical fights or assaults. They have a reckless disregard for self or others. And they show a constant irresponsibility, as indicated by repeated failure to sustain consistent work behavior or honor financial obligations.

One of the biggest signs that someone is a Psychopath is their complete lack of remorse or empathy for others, or the ability to feel guilt for something they have done, as indicated by being indifferent to or rationalizing having hurt, mistreated, or stolen from another. In other words, they have no genuine emotions. But they can FAKE emotions when they need to, as indicated by crying on cue, laughing on cue, etc. But it is all an "act" to attain whatever goal they are trying to achieve.

They are "people users" and see people as "objects" to be used, rather than as fellow human beings to respect and love. They will say anything, do anything, become anything to whomever they are associating with, in order to get something from that individual, and will drop the individual as soon as their usefulness to them is over.

They have "no conscience" and have "rendered their conscience inoperable."

They will often lose their temper, and as children they often argued with adults and actively defied or refused to comply with the adult's requests or rules. As children they will deliberately annoy people and then take delight in watching their annoyance. As both adults and children, Psychopaths will many times blame others for his or her own mistakes or misbehavior. They are "never wrong." And they are very touchy or easily annoyed by others, becoming angry and resentful. And when they are angry, that anger often turns into violence, which is both spiteful and vindictive.

As teenagers, they will often bully, threaten or intimidate others, and initiate physical fights. If they are the most dangerous kind of Psychopath they will use weapons that can cause physical harm to others, ( e.g., a bat, brick, broken bottle, knife, gun, etc.) They can be physically cruel to people and to animals, often getting enjoyment or a "rush" out of hurting others. And as teenagers, or adults they will break the law by mugging, purse snatching, extortion, armed robbery, rape and even murder. Most of our prisons are filled with "Psychopaths."

They will deliberately set fires, and destroy the property of others, and will "lie" to obtain goods or favors or to avoid obligations. And as an adolescent they are often truant from school, beginning before the age of 13, often staying out late at night despite parental rules, and will run away from home.

Now, how do you put all of this together? Because there are various degrees of Psychopaths, ranging from mild to moderate, to severe, to extremely dangerous. There are "Social Psychopaths," who never break any laws, but who climb to the top of companies by stepping on their best friend's back to get there. There are "Political Psychopaths," who will say whatever they need to say, or do, or become, in order to get elected to office or become the President of the United States. They live in an atmosphere of lies, which are told continuously to everyone, including their staffs.

The Political Psychopaths are "chameleons" who can take on whatever disguise they need to, in order to manipulate an entire crowd. But what they are really after is POWER and CONTROL. And they do not really care about the American people, but only care about becoming the most powerful person in the world.

Almost ALL men who are abusive and who are batterers of their wives and children are full-fledged Psychopaths. This is why you hear of a husband who killed his wife and children and then turned the gun on himself.

The scariest thing about most Psychopaths is that they use "words" with finesse and have an answer for everything that they do, that turns the situation around and makes a normal person think that they are the ones with the problem instead of the Psychopath. If you confront a Psychopath with something that they have done, they will make it look like YOU are the one who did it. You know deep down inside that you are right and they are wrong, but you can never win, you can only feel like you are "going crazy."

What can you do? If you are living with one of these people it is a "no win" situation. You NEED to leave, run, walk away as fast as you can and don't look back. This is because the cure rate for psychopaths is very rare. Even with therapy, most of them do not change if you can even get them to go to counseling that is. Usually they con the therapist, or if the therapist catches on to them they just get mad and walk out of the counseling session refusing to ever go back.

This is due to their impulsivity, and lack of emotional maturity or any spiritual depth to even feel guilt or comprehend that there are consequences to their actions. They have rendered their conscience inoperable.

They have done studies of prisoners who were psychopaths and put them in a room watching a violent movie with electrodes tracking their bodily reactions to what they are seeing on the screen. And then they have taken a group of normal people and shown them the same violent movie, with electrodes attached to them also. The results are alarming. The "normal" people reacted with disgust and fear, almost immediately to what they saw on the screen. Their heart rates increased, their blood pressure went up, etc.

But the psychopaths, shown the same movie, had hardly any change in their heart rates, or blood pressure. They remained cool and calm, even when shown the most horrific scenes of cruelty and torture. It took them much longer to have any reaction at all to what they were seeing. Which is WHY they can use, torture, be cruel, and even murder people without having any remorse. This is because they feel NOTHING. In fact, some of them say that they get a "RUSH" or "HIGH" out of seeing and doing dangerous and repulsive things. To them, a person is an "object" and killing someone to them is just like "eating a hamburger." They have no HEART.

From a biblical standpoint, these are the "wicked" people that the Bible refers to. These are the ones who heard Jesus' teachings and mocked Him, and refused to follow Him, and who ended up crucifying Him. These are the ones that are on their way to Hell, because they have no conscious. They are unteachable. These are the ones that Jesus said to "dust off your shoes, and leave that town", these are the ones who did not listen to Noah before the flood, who heard Jesus's words and they "fell on deaf ears." And these are the ones whom Jesus referred to as "unbelievers" and who He "gave them up to their own wicked desires."

So you see, even though 2,000 years have passed since Jesus was here, human nature is still the same. And we are to have nothing to do with those who choose to live in the "dark." Because if you do, they will destroy you.